Balanced Self-esteem

If the rejected contestants on American Idol are a sampling of our culture then lack of self-esteem is definitely not an American problem.  Individuals with no talent, who cannot begin to carry a tune, become angry when they are told “no.”  If their parents are present they seem amazed that the judges could reject their sweet gift to the world.  While it is true we should not destroy a child’s self-esteem it also seems that we do them no favor when we fill them with dreams for which they have no gift.  Does love make us so blind or have we become such a child worshipping culture that cannot be honest and say to a child, “Let’s work together to find your real gift”?

When we over praise our children we do them no favor.  If we create in them false expectations of success in areas in which they have no talent we do them no good. Proverbs 22:6, “Train up a child in the way he should go and when he is old he will not depart from it” is not merely about morality, it is mainly about helping a child match abilities with opportunities.  My father wanted me to be a physician.  It was not my gift.

Finding the right balance of self-esteem is not easy.  We should be proud of who we are.  We should feel good about what we do. We should be pleased to come to the end of life and know that we have done well.  That is impossible if we are never honest enough to look in the mirror and see the truth.   The best truth of all is that Jesus died for us.  Now there is cause for great self-esteem balanced with gratitude and humility.

Written by Roger Bothwell on February 5, 2009

Spring of Life Ministry, PO Box 124, St. Helena, CA 94574

 

Bad Times Don’t Last

I just finished reading an editorial that ridiculed a few companies for running advertisements on television encouraging us with assurance that we as a nation will gain from the economic downturn.  According to the optimistic advertisements the gain will be a better appreciation for what we have and how to better manage our resources when the economy upturns.  I think James 1:3 supports the optimistic companies.  James wrote, “Consider it pure joy, my brothers, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing our faith develops perseverance.”

Perhaps the author of the critical editorial is young and has not yet matured in enough wisdom to understand.  The generation Tom Brokaw refers to as The Greatest Generation are those who endured the great depression and sacrificed through WWII.  These are ones who throughout the 40s, 50s, 60s and 70s labored hard to build and to save and to be frugal.  They knew what it was like to be without.  Perhaps the same work ethics can be instilled in our present young people as we work together to restore hope and prosperity.

I realize how difficult it is to count trials as joy.  It isn’t in our nature to do so and some consider those who do to be a bit daft.  But we do know that bad times don’t last and lessons learned do make us stronger and wiser.  Already this year our little city has lost two large businesses.  Is it comfortable to do so?  Absolutely not.  Is it the end of the world? Absolutely not.  Good times and blessings will follow and all of us will be wiser and better stewards.

Written by Roger Bothwell on January 26, 2009

Spring of Life Ministry, PO Box 124, St. Helena, CA 94574

Bad News/Good News

We had a serious steering issue with our car.  You can imagine the sinking feeling in my stomach when I heard just the parts would cost 1700 dollars. However,  there was some good news.  Those same parts could be retrieved from a car just like ours that is now residing in a local junk yard.  The junk yard cost would be 300 dollars.  Phew! I could live with that.

I am fascinated by my response to spending 300 dollars.  Had I first been told 300 dollars I would have groaned.  However, after hearing it in relation to the 1700 dollars, it was wonderful news.   I am going to use the same psychology this week as we begin our fall semester.  I will tell my students they have to write three major papers for me and then say, “On second thought one paper will be fine.”   I’m hoping for cheers instead of groans over the one major paper.

How about this?  We are sinners.  We have to die for our sins.  Our selfishness makes us unfit for heaven and eternal life.  Am I hearing any groans?  Okay, now comes the good news.  Jesus did it for us!  Now it’s time to cheer.  I have such mixed feelings about Jesus’ death.   I am so glad He did it for us.  I am so sad He had to do it for us.  It is a good news, bad news scenario.

Adam and Eve must have been shattered when they were taken from the Garden of Eden.  Their eyes must have filled with tears as they were escorted out the gate.   Then they heard the good news.  There was a way provided for them to return.  The bad news was Jesus had to die. The good news was He is the resurrection and the life and would live again.

Written by Roger Bothwell on August 31, 2009

Spring of Life Ministry, PO Box 124, St. Helena, CA 94574

 

Automatic Behavior

While walking my dog last evening I watched one of my neighbors pull out of her driveway.  She used her turn signal.   Obviously it was an involuntary habit since there was no other car in sight and traffic behind her was minimal.   While purchasing a book at a store filled with people I know including the person behind the counter, I was amused that the clerk retained my credit card so she could verify my signature.   I am going to assume it was an automatic involuntary habit.

Philippians 2:5 has always been one of my favorite verses.  “Let this mind be in you that was in Christ.”    When this happens we will do all manner of things automatically.  Our first response to pleasant or unpleasant events would be one which would please our mothers.  How grand it would be if we automatically lived out the standards presented to us in the Sermon on the Mount.  I can only imagine what it is like to desire the best for people who disrespect me.  That response is not my natural first reaction.

When we come to understand it is not other’s actions that cause us internal strife but instead our reaction to other’s actions, we have made a giant step toward an abundant tranquil life.  While it is true Jesus did on occasion get angry, it only occurred when He noticed the strong abusing the not so strong.   We have no record of Jesus being angry in response to actions directed against Him.   It is a worthy goal that is most likely not about to happen to most of us today or tomorrow, but with the aid of the Holy Spirit we can make progress each day.

Written by Roger Bothwell on April 5, 2009

Spring of Life Ministry, PO Box 124, St. Helena, CA 94574

 

Apples

I did not know before this weekend that apple seeds are not true to their fruit.  If we plant a seed from a Gala apple we will not get a tree that produces Gala apples.  Johnny Appleseed did not spread Cortland apples westward from Leominster, Massachusetts, his birthplace.  Types and kinds of apples have everything to do with grafting.

Having learned this marvelous truth has given me an answer to a problem that has plagued me for years.  If Adam and Eve were perfect from God’s hand, how is it they sinned?  The answer is things are not always true to their fruit.  Adam and Eve were the perfect fruit of God’s design and creation. But their seed wasn’t true to their illustrious origin. The Golden Delicious seed is not true to that awesome apple.

At this point some of you are most likely thinking, “I think he’s stretching to make a point.”   If so, you are most likely correct. I am. There is no reason for what happened other than they were given freedom of choice and they exercised that freedom with devastating results.  If there had been a good reason for what they did it would not have been sin.  They had everything that was good but they went for the bad.

The next question my students ask is why do we have to suffer because of what they did?  If I’m in a car with a bad driver and he crashes, I die.  Adam and Eve were in the driver’s seat for mankind. However, God is aware of our concern and He made it fair. Just as we die by one man’s deed so we get to live by one man’s righteousness.  See Romans 5:19

Written by Roger Bothwell on September 28, 2009

Spring of Life Ministry, PO Box 124, St. Helena, CA 94574

Another Man’s God

When I think back on it I chastise myself for my youthful arrogance.  How could I have been so uncaring and disrespectful?  A few miles from my school in Uganda there was a huge outcrop of rocks. I spent the afternoon of my 30th birthday up there enjoying the quiet breeze that always came after our very regular afternoon thunderstorm. A fairly large python lived up there and would be fed by locals who worshiped it.  One afternoon I along with a few friends had the opportunity to capture it and take it to our school.  During the night someone came and took it back to the rocks.  I saw it there the following afternoons.  I knew the people revered that animal.  But for me it was just a large curiosity.  It was an adventure to drag it home.  It showed great disrespect for another man’s worship experience.

My students see me as an old man and on occasion ask me if I would do things differently if I had a chance.  The answer is “Absolutely, yes.”  I could write of many other things but will not turn this into a confessional.  My point is that it is important to respect others who see things much differently than we do.  How grand it is that God does not judge us by groups or by our associations but by our response to His wooing.  He and He alone knows the perspective of each soul.  He knows the vantage point with which we have seen life.  Each of us sees life and issues through our biases.  While we do not agree with others we need to respect them.  I have come to believe that 95% of the people I meet are doing the very best they know how.

Written by Roger Bothwell on December 2, 2009.

Spring of Life Ministry, PO 124, St. Helena, CA 94574

An Old Scrabble Game

While rummaging around in an old box I came across a computer Scrabble game.  I have not played it in years and I wondered if I was still up for the challenge.  It gave me the option of setting the computer to novice, amateur, expert or pro.   It seemed rather cowardly to dumb down the computer so I set it on pro.   Wow, did I get trounced.  It accessed its internal dictionary and played seven letter words giving itself 50 point bonuses.  The next time I will move it down to expert and see what happens.

As I watched its score soar I was reminded of people I have known who thought they were smart enough to beat Satan.  The definition of sin is anything that will harm you or another.  By definition one is playing against the odds and if one plays long enough the house always wins. It was Jesus Himself who said, “All they that take the sword shall perish with the sword.”   It is the same principle that says if you play with fire you will get burned.

God’s Word is very clear about certain things.  It was written by someone much smarter and wiser than we.  So what other than conceited arrogance would make us think we can be the exception?  Paul said, “The wages of sin is death.”  Note that there will be a paycheck coming our way.  It reminds us of the play Damn Yankees or Marlow’s Faust.  The protagonist sells his soul to the Devil thinking when the contract is up he can negotiate his way out of it.   The wise man learns to trust God.  Our heavenly Father has our best interest at heart.  If we ask He will rescue us even from our foolish selves.

Written by Roger Bothwell on June 18, 2009

Spring of Life Ministry, PO Box 124, St. Helena, CA 94574

 

An Incomprehensible Din

Last evening on America’s Got Talent a young man played the piano.  It must have been brilliant because he garnered enough votes to move on to the semifinals. The amazing thing was no one could hear him play.  A dancer inadvertently kicked a cable loose and the piano went silent amidst the accompanying cacophony.  Never-the-less thousands of people voted for him.  There must be a multitude of people with gigantic sympathetic hearts.

As we watched him play it was evident he was pouring out a tremendous amount of energy.  Perhaps people voted for his effort.  I thought of our voices crying out to a lost world that Jesus is coming again and longs to save all.  However, often our voices are crowded out by the noises of modernity.  There are so many pressures and pleasures to distract.  There are so many competing messages.  There are so many counterfeit messages designed to confuse.  Whenever our common enemy sees one of us nearing the eternal prize he pulls out centuries old heresies to distract and to take away the glorious simplicity of God’s call to us.

John the Baptist’s message was a voice crying out in a wilderness.  So in these last days the wonder of God’s love is often drowned out by an incomprehensible dissonance.  Our message is so plain a child can understand and yet so vast it will take us an eternity to grasp the enormity of the love that reached down to us.   We are loved.  Jesus offers us life.  It is a gift.  The result of receiving it transforms our lives.  We live to serve not to be saved but because we are saved.  Duty, obedience, trustworthiness, honesty, patience, kindness become the natural fruit of our grateful hearts.

Written by Roger Bothwell on August 20, 2009

Spring of Life Ministry, PO Box 124, St. Helena, CA 94574

 

Amaze People

A distinguished appearing elderly man sat across from me in a waiting room this afternoon.  He must have been eighty and bore himself with dignity.  The journal he was reading indicated a professional background.  I was curious and was about to open a conversation with him when he turned to the lady sitting beside him and let out a disgusting string of foul four-letter words; so much for my judgment.  I couldn’t have cared less after that.  I wondered how often people have good opinions of us until we open our mouths.

I have always been intrigued by Acts 4:13.  “Now when they saw the boldness of Peter and John, and perceived that they were uneducated and untrained men, they marveled. And they realized that they had been with Jesus.”  Peter and John looked uneducated but when they opened their mouths it was amazing.  They were quite the opposite of the old fossil (see I have down graded him) who sat before me.

Jesus is the master teacher.  He is the ultimate educator.  Three years with Jesus was a doctoral degree for these fishermen.  I am fascinated why Jesus rarely, if ever, appears in a list of the world’s great philosophers.  It is most likely because they don’t want to be outclassed.   Many philosophers take simple things and dress them up in multisyllabic words making them appear to be obscure.   Jesus took deep things and dressed them in parables of common day things so everyone could understand.   Now that I have said that I make myself appear to be stupid because I find the Sermon on the Mount to be one of the most difficult pieces of philosophy I have ever read.

Spend time with Jesus.  Let Him educate you by reading His word.  You will positively amaze people when you open your mouth.

Written by Roger Bothwell on October 13, 2009

Spring of Life Ministry, PO Box 124, St. Helena, CA 94574

 

All of Us Are Teachers

My father was a school teacher.   His brother was a school teacher.  His brother’s wife was a school teacher.  My step-mother was a school teacher.  I married a school teacher.  As a school teacher I stand in the midst of a family tradition.  This evening I stood in a graduate class of thirty-two students and was amazed that almost half of them were leaving other careers and reeducating themselves so they could enter elementary classrooms.  The other half are already elementary teachers getting their masters’ degrees.

Teaching is a profession whose value is not defined by its remuneration.  Only in eternity will we begin to realize the value of what teachers do day after day.  The opportunity to reach into the mind of a child and to challenge and inspire them to greatness is without a doubt one of the most exciting things that can happen to anyone.  Yesterday our President used his bully pulpit to address the children of our land and he said, “Take responsibility for your education. Go to class and listen. Don’t let failures define you. . . .That is the promise of education in America, that no matter what we look like or where we come from or who our parents are, each of us should have the opportunity to fulfill our God-given potential.”

God gave our children pliable minds.  What they become, who they will be, very much depends not only upon what we say to them but what we are in front of them.  Each of us is a teacher no matter what we do for our paycheck.

One of my favorite authors wrote, “He who co-operates with the divine purpose in imparting to the youth a knowledge of God, and molding the character into harmony with His, does a high and noble work.” White E.G., Education, p. 19.

Written by Roger Bothwell on September 10, 2009

Spring of Life Ministry, PO Box 124, St. Helena, CA 94574